【N5-N4】Ep278 How to make a good relationship with people / Japanese Podcast for Beginners Shun and Japanese.
Published 2026-10-23 Shun と 日本語 にほんご 。 Shun and Japanese.
AI Explain Podcast 二百七十八。 Podcast 278. 初心者 Beginners 元気レベル。 Beginner level, genki level. いい人間関係の作り方。 How to build good relationships. How to make a good relationship with people. How to make a good relationship with people. 皆さんこんにちは。 Hello, everyone. 日本語教師のシュンです。 I'm Shun, a Japanese language teacher. 元気ですか? How are you? えー、今日はいい人間関係の作り方について話したいと思います。 Um, today I'd like to talk about how to build good relationships with people. いやー、面白いトピックですよね。 Well, that's an interesting topic, isn't it? 皆さん知っていますか? Do you all know? あの八百人ぐらいの人に八十年ぐらいした研究があります。 There's a study that followed about eight hundred people for about eighty years. みんないろいろな人生があります。 Everyone has all kinds of lives. いろいろな仕事、いろいろな友達、家族があります。 They have various jobs, various friends, and families. この研究で幸せになるために一番必要なことがわかったんですよ。 This study revealed the single most necessary thing for becoming happy. 皆さんは何だと思いますか? What do you all think it is? そうなんですよ。 That's right. いい人間関係は幸せに一番大切なことだとわかったんです。 It turned out that good relationships are the most important thing for happiness. だから、お金があまりなくても、いい人間関係があったら幸せを感じることができるんです。 So even if you don't have much money, if you have good relationships, you can feel happiness. 反対に、お金がたくさんあっても、いい人間関係がなかったら幸せを感じることができません。 Conversely, even if you have a lot of money, you cannot feel happiness if you don't have good relationships with people. 皆さんはこの研究についてどう思いますか? What do you all think about this research? 私は本当にこの研究を見つけた時に、ああ、本当にそうだなと思いました。 When I actually found this research, I thought, ah, that's really true. 私たちの悩み、私たちの悩みのほとんどは人間関係ですよね。 Our worries, most of our worries are about relationships with people, right? まあ、いろいろな人間関係があります。 Well, there are various kinds of relationships with people. 家族との関係、妻や夫との関係、友達との関係、恋人との関係、会社の同僚との関係。 Relationships with family, relationships with your wife or husband, relationships with friends, relationships with your lover, relationships with colleagues at work. うん。 Yeah. まあいろいろありますね。 Well, there are various kinds. どうですか? How about you? 皆さんはみんなといい関係がありますか? Do you all have good relationships with everyone? まあ、全部完璧な関係は難しいかもしれません。 Well, a perfect relationship with everyone might be difficult. でも、お金をもっと稼ぐより、いい人間関係を作った、たくさん作った方が幸せになれると思います。 But I think that rather than earning more money, building good relationships with people—building many of them—can make you happier. だから私も最近は友達や家族や妻との関係をもっと良くするようにしています。 So lately I've also been trying to improve my relationships with friends, family, and my wife. まず、家族との関係ですね。 First, it's about relationships with family. 時々いい家族との関係を築くのは難しいですよね。 Sometimes it's difficult to build good relationships with family, isn't it? でも、そうですよ。 But yes, that's right. まず、あの、両親と私の考え方や価値観は本当に違います。 First, um, my parents and I really have different ways of thinking and values. 前は両親が私の価値観をわかってくれない時に喧嘩をしていました。 Before, I used to argue when my parents didn't understand my values. でも気づきました。 But I realized something. いい人間関係を築きたかったら、自分が変わらなければいけないと思います。 If you want to build good relationships with people, I think you have to change yourself. 前はいつか私の両親が私と同じ価値観を持ってくれると思っていました。 Before, I thought that someday my parents would share the same values as me. でも、私はそれを諦めました。 But I gave up on that. 両親は両親の価値観があって、私は私の価値観があります。 My parents have their own values, and I have my own values. だから、両親と意見が違ってもいいです。 So it's fine even if my opinions differ from my parents'. それから、両親と会話をする時は、できるだけ喧嘩にならないように、両親の話をもっと聞いてあげるようにしました。 After that, when I talk with my parents, I tried to listen to them more so that we wouldn't end up fighting as much as possible. もちろん両親の意見と同じじゃない時もあります。 Of course, there are times when I don't agree with my parents' opinions. でも、反対して喧嘩するより、両親の意見を聞いてあげて、楽しい時間を増やした方がいいと思いました。 But rather than opposing them and fighting, I thought it would be better to listen to my parents' opinions and increase the enjoyable time together. それから本当に私の両親との関係が良くなりましたね。 And my relationship with my parents really did improve. うん。 Yeah. 両親との時間をもっと楽しめるようになりました。 I've come to enjoy the time with my parents more. 私は今、妻と一緒に住んでいますが、妻といい関係を築くのも一番大切にしています。 I currently live with my wife, and building a good relationship with her is also something I value most. もちろん仕事が忙しい時もあります。 Of course, there are times when work is busy. でも、一番は妻が幸せを感じてくれることが大切なので、できるだけ妻といい時間を作るようにしていますね。 But what matters most is that my wife feels happy, so I try to make as much good time with her as possible. うん、特に毎日妻と一緒にいますからね。 Yeah, especially since I'm with my wife every day. 本当に大切です。 It's really important. あと、友達も同じです。 Also, the same goes for friends. 友達とは毎日一緒にいませんが、友達といる時はもっとバカなことができます。 I don't spend every day with my friends, but when I'm with them I can do sillier things. 本当に仲がいい、気を使わなくてもいい友達は本当に大切だと思いますね。 I think friends you're truly close with, friends you don't have to be formal with, are really important. 週末は大抵妻と過ごしますが、最低一ヶ月に一回か二回は友達に会うようにしています。 On weekends I usually spend time with my wife, but I try to meet my friends at least once or twice a month. あと、前は本当に仲が良かった友達だけど、最近全然会っていない友達も大切です。 Also, friends I used to be really close with but haven't seen at all recently are important too. 私は時々そんな友達に連絡をして、一緒に居酒屋に行きます。 I sometimes contact friends like that and go to an izakaya together. 前にとても仲が良かった友達なので、すぐに昔みたいになりますね。 Since we were very close friends before, we quickly go back to how we were in the old days. はい。 Yes. まあ、大人になって結婚して子供ができると、ライフスタイルが変わって、昔の友達と全然遊ばなくなりますよね。 Well, once you become an adult, get married, and have children, your lifestyle changes, and you stop hanging out with old friends at all. それは本当に悲しいことだと思います。 I think that's really sad. だから私は家族がいる友達にも連絡をして、たくさんじゃないけど、時々時間を作って居酒屋に行ったり、昼ご飯を食べに行ったりします。 So I also contact friends who have families, and although it's not a lot, I sometimes make time to go to an izakaya or go eat lunch together. 皆さん、同僚との関係はどうですかね。 Everyone, how are your relationships with your colleagues? 私は同僚がいないので、実はあまりわかりません。 I don't have colleagues, so actually I don't really know. でも本当に好きじゃない上司がいたらどうしますか? But what would you do if you had a boss you really didn't like? まあ、私だったら多分その仕事を辞めているかもしれません。 Well, if it were me, I might have probably quit that job. いや、でもそれは難しいですよね。 No, but that's difficult, isn't it? うん。 Yeah. はい。 Yes. 仕事も毎日するから、同僚との人間関係も本当に大切ですね。 Since we work every day too, relationships with colleagues are really important, aren't they? うん。 Yeah. まあ多分これも自分が変わらなければいけませんよね。 Well, maybe this also means I have to change myself, right? まずはあまりその人にエネルギーを使わないようにマインドセットを変えると思います。 First, I think I'll change my mindset so that I don't use too much energy on that person. 瞑想みたいですよ。 It's like meditation. その上司と話している時は、本当にその好きじゃない上司のエネルギーをもらわないようにします。 When I'm talking with that boss, I really try not to receive the energy of that boss I don't like. あとは他の同僚に相談して、その上司と働かないようにしてもらうのもいいかもしれませんね。 Also, it might be good to consult with other colleagues and have them arrange it so you don't work with that boss. はい。 Yes. いや、仕事の人間関係は本当に難しいと思います。 No, I think workplace relationships are really difficult. でも皆さん、仕事は辞めてもいいですからね。 But everyone, it's okay to quit your job, you know. 本当に仕事の人間関係で困っている人がいたら、いつも辞める選択もありますよ。 If there's someone who is really struggling with workplace relationships, quitting is always an option too. うん。 Yeah. 私が習ったのは、他の人を変えることはできないけど、自分が変わることはできる。 What I learned is that you can't change other people, but you can change yourself. 自分の考え方を少し変えたら、もっと人間関係が良くなると思います。 I think if you change your way of thinking a little, your relationships will get better. あと、多分たくさんの人はあまり人間関係を良くする努力をしていないと思います。 Also, I think many people probably aren't making much effort to improve their relationships. 仕事や趣味はすごく頑張っているのに、人間関係を良くするのを忘れている人もたくさんいると思います。 I think there are many people who work really hard at their jobs or hobbies but forget to improve their relationships. まずは人間関係がもっと大切だと気づくことが一番大切かもしれませんね。 Maybe the most important thing is to first realize that relationships are more important. Words and phrases used in this episode。 Words and phrases used in this episode. 人間関係 relationship。 人間関係 relationship. 研究 studies。 研究 studies. 反対に on the contrary。 反対に on the contrary. 妻 my wife。 妻 my wife. 夫 my husband。 夫 my husband. 同僚 coworkers。 同僚 coworkers. 完璧 perfect。 完璧 perfect. 稼ぐ to earn。 稼ぐ to earn. 築く to build。 築く to build. 価値観 sense of value。 Values, sense of value. 喧嘩する to fight or to argue。 To fight or to argue. 諦める to give up。 To give up. 反対する to disagree。 To disagree. 増やす to increase。 To increase. 気を使う to care。 To care. 最低 at least。 At least. 連絡する to contact。 To contact. 上司 boss。 Boss. 瞑想 meditation。 Meditation. 相談する to consult。 to consult. 困る to be in trouble。 to be in trouble. 選択 options。 options. 努力 effort。 effort. はい、えー今日はいい人間関係の作り方について話してみました。 Yes, today I talked about how to build good relationships with people. どうでしたか? How was it? 皆さんはどうやって人間関係を良くしていますか? 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